How To Take The Next Steps After A Chat Line Date!
How does one go from being separated by miles and miles of wire to meeting up face-to-face? Your mind can drive you up the wall if you let it, filling you up with questions and doubts about yourself and how your new partner will perceive you. What if he/she doesn’t like the way I look…or the way I walk? What if I trip when I am going to the bathroom and then spill a drink on my lap and completely embarrass myself? What if there is nothing to talk about? What if we just sit there in silence as everybody around us notices what a horrible first date we are having? Will it be as good as my first phone date? Am I going to have to give the distress signal to the bartender?
First of all, it is time to stop doubting yourself. You are awesome and should expect to be treated as such. Secondly, stop putting so much pressure on yourself; he/she could turn out to be the opposite of what you expect as well. Lastly, you did not meet on a dating app. This isn’t going to be some vapid fling unless that is what you expressed you wanted. You should both be on the same page about where the relationship is heading. Now, all you have to do is decide what the next step is going to be. Stop worrying. Stop stressing. Stop planning a month, or two, or ten down the road. Let’s just focus on what comes next. Let’s focus on what happens once you both decide that simply speaking on the telephone is no longer cutting it; you need more. So what do you do?
Decide What The Next Step Is:
Video chatting is a great next option for those of us not willing to jump into the deep end quite yet; wading in the shallow is just as acceptable! This is the perfect in-between when it comes to chat lines and meeting up in person. This way, you get to connect a bit more by looking at the other person and matching a face to the voice. You might even get a couple of butterflies fluttering around in that stomach of yours the first time your eyes meet.
Meeting Up For Coffee
You want to meet up in person but the formality that so often comes along with a date is not appealing – it tends to put far too much pressure on a date. By setting your date during the daytime and going to grab a coffee, you keep it casual while also opening the door to having some serious conversations. Plus, if the (casual) date goes well, it can always spill into the evening!
Formal Date
Maybe the next step is going for that formal, chivalrous date you’ve been lusting after. After all, you already know you like one another and that the conversation tends to flow for hours on end, so meeting up in person for a romantic evening is no longer daunting; it is exciting! This is definitely the right move to make if you don’t mind stepping into the unknown with someone you know just a tad bit.
A Weekend Away
Maybe you and your boo have been talking via chat line for a while now and the anticipation has built up for months on end. Maybe you guys don’t live in the same state/city/town, so going away for a weekend sounds like the perfect option. Sure, it might seem a little soon seeing as you have not met in person yet, but if you’re going to embark on your quest for love, you have to be willing to take a risk or two. Plus, it is nice to mee ton neutral ground so nobody feels like they are intruding in anybody else’s space.