How To Tell If Someone Is Relationship-Ready On The Phone
We naturally want to give people the benefit of the doubt. This is true, as well, with phone dating. We want to believe that everyone is calling into the lines for the right reasons, that they are interested in seriously dating, and that they are seeking more than a one night stand. But the chat line dating pool is like any other dating pool. It has some defects. There are some callers who really do just want to have a fun casual evening. Those people are advised to call naughty lines instead of numbers for singles, but that doesn’t mean that they always will. There are several lines that are both for erotic chat and for singles. There are even people out there who call the line because they are trying to find local friends. Chat lines don’t have set rules about who can and can’t call. You need to keep an eye out for the callers who are datable.
What makes a datable caller? This is going to be up to you as an individual, but datable callers are attentive, reliable, and have the potential to create a wonderful relationship with you. Being that chat lines are a form of phone dating, the signs that point to a good dater aren’t screaming at you on the call. There’s a bit of reading between the lines that needs to be done. Read below to find out if the person you are flirting with on your singles line has real relationship potential. If they don’t fit the bill – ditch them. There are plenty of other local singles calling who would be ready to take that leap with you.
Attentiveness
Does the person on the other end of the phone pay attention to what you are saying? They’ll need to be a great listener for any relationship to work. But especially if you are starting out by phone dating. Listening to each other is everything. There are ways you can tell if someone is being a good listener. They will usually make agreeable noises while you are speaking. Something along the lines of, “yes” or, “absolutely.” They will additionally ask questions to keep the conversation moving. These questions will have to do with what you are talking about. This shows that they are invested in whatever you are talking about and that they will do the same in your relationship.
Respectfulness
There is a type of chat line dater who loves to suck the air out of the chat. They spend most of the call dominating the chat and make it very difficult for you to even get a word in. This type of person isn’t attentive, because they don’t even allow you the time to share stories about yourself. Instead, they are rude and disrespectful. Their goal is to hear themselves talk, not find a person to go out with from the phone dating circle. Be wary of callers like this. Another sign of disrespect is if that caller is rude, mean, or makes insensitive jokes about things that are important to you. Someone you’ll eventually want to start a life with needs to respect your beliefs, even If they don’t 100% share those beliefs with you.
No Distractions
People will call into chat lines when they are feeling bored. They might be doing something else at the same time such as cooking, cleaning, or even taking care of their kids. This is a pretty bad indicator when meeting a chat line caller for the first time. If they can’t even pull themselves away for a short phone call, how can you know that they’l be able to handle a full-on relationship? Most of the time, this isn’t directly the caller’s fault. People are busy. If they warn you ahead of time that they are squeezing in a call, that shows a level of consideration. But if they keep getting distracted without any warning and begin to waste your time – that’s no good. Make sure that your potential match has the time to dedicate to a new relationship. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself disappointed.
Appropriateness
I said it before: People call chat lines for all kinds of things. Some callers are looking for a one night stand. That’s well within their rights when they call the line. Those just aren’t the ones for you (if you are trying to find someone to settle down with). You will know what type of caller you have on your hands depending on how appropriate they are on the line. That is a relative term, of course. But appropriate for you. If the caller gets sexual right away during the call, it should be clear what they are after. That’s someone who is looking for something extremely casual. A person who wants a relationship is going to take it much slower than that, no matter how hot your voice has got them feeling! Many callers are on the line looking for a casual night of fun. But not everyone! So keep your ears peeled for the signs that someone is just there to get laid.
Foresight
A caller who is into you will be excited about planning the next phone call or meetup. Hanging up with a caller without any indication of when you are going to speak next shows one of two things: Either the caller wasn’t that interested in dating you, or they don’t have the foresight to plan something in the future with you. It’s not great either way. So if there is no indication of a future meetup or call, assume that there isn’t one. Don’t waste your time on anyone not willing to plan a future with you.
Take this advice into consideration If you are calling a chat line because you want to date someone seriously. A person with real potential is going to make you feel good about the call and about yourself. And if your match doesn’t show you that they can handle a real relationship by not proving themselves in these ways, move on! There are so many callers using chat lines day and night. Your person is out there somewhere.